We had a question in our blog;

What can you do to help adopted children bond with other children in a family?

One of the most important thing when adopting a child is falling in love with him, giving him pure love, and treating him like your own. It matters a lot if you fell that way about your child because most likely your kids follow your example. The bonding between siblings and child is as important that the bonding that exist between parents and child. Bonding doesn't come from one day to the other, it requires a lot of time spending together as a family, doing different activities such as eating together, going to bed, and having fun together.

It does not matter how close or how far the children in age are, they are still sibling and their behavior with one another is going to affect their life in the future.

I want to share with you 5 suggestions that are really going to help how important it is the bonding between sibling and of course how to help children on feeling this bonding with each other:

1) Create and use a family journal: Once a week, get all together in a family meeting to discuss things that were put in this journal throughout the week, discuss the problems that you have in school or just have a theme ready and talk about it.

2)Seek therapeutic help for serious sibling and family conflicts: Professional help must be seek if a child is seriously affecting other children in the family with their attitudes or behavior, at the end of the journey those sibling might be able to bond again.

3) Make certain each child gets individual attention and affection: It is important for parents to understand that children who have been adopted are more sensitive to certain situation, so parents needs to be very careful of their wording and time spent with each child. This will prevent from children getting in fight with each other.

4) Model and promote open communication: In this situation as children get older they become more quiet and really don't have an open communication with other siblings. Parents need to be active listeners and be able to text email or call child, that way is easier for them to communicate with brothers and sisters.

5) Provide chances for your children to interact with similarly situated peers: Take adopted children to sessions with other peers in their same situation that will help them be more open and communicate better.

 

Family is not simply your blood family, but is the people you live with everyday. The same as siblings are not only who are blood tie, they are all your brother and sisters that you have a family with and interact with. It is also important to recognize that it first has to start with a good relationship and education from the parents, they have to be able to be active listeners and be able to recognize different situations and problems that their child are going through.

Jessica M.